What to expect during your first session

The mediation process:

  • Identify conflict areas

  • Identify needs of both parties

  • Identify solutions and options

  • Identify any missing information

  • Test reality of solutions

  • Find agreement on solutions OR understand the consequences of an impasse. 

The mediator's role:

  • Neutral and objective (does not side with either party)

  • Guidance and redirection through the mediation process

  • Balances power dynamics

  • Ensures each party is empowered to exercise their power of choice

  • Meet with parties individually, when necessary, to clarify positions

  • Does not allow unethical agreements to be made

  • Mediates only measurable and specific problems

  • Drafts agreements

Forms you will need: (please print and fill out before your first session)

How to Prepare for Mediation

Before mediation:

  • Know what you want

  • Know why you want it

  • Know the legal strengths/weaknesses of your case (consult with an attorney if needed)

During mediation:

  • Voice your desires and concerns

  • Listen for the needs of the other party when they speak

  • Be considerate of both parties' needs

  • Behave respectfully (tone of voice, no name-calling or threats)

  • Be honest

  • Focus on creating a new and functional future

What to bring to your first appointment:

Any relevant documents such as:

  • Court orders

  • Work schedules

  • Paystubs

  • Current custody arrangements

  • Information about assets and investments

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